Over the next few weeks we are hoping to bring some form of
comfort for those who are grieving their loss as the holiday season begins. We
will try to give some examples of how others have coped during the holiday
season.
Holidays seem to be the worst time of year for those who
have had a death in the family. Beginning with Thanksgiving thru the first of
the year seem to be the hardest. Not to say other holidays, for example,
Easter, birthdays of the loved one, 4th
of July ,etc. but holidays that everyone
seems to be excited about tend to be some of the most overwhelming times for
the grieved ones.
Seems like every year Christmas ads are getting earlier and
earlier. Halloween is barely over and here come the Christmas trees, etc. in
the shores.
Holiday television ads seem to begin earlier and earlier
also. So naturally the grieved one begins to
remember times past, ,be anxious, and everyone seems so happy! “Life is not fair, doesn’t everyone see how I
am hurting, don’t they care!!” This phrase or something similar is thought by a
lot of people who are hurting. Life does go on and traditions continue. But,
who says traditions have to continue, who says change can not be implemented.
Continue the tradition if that is what you want. Talk about your loved one,
change traditions.
If you feel the need to talk to someone about your lose
reach out to the ministers ,elders, or others who have experienced loss in
their families.
Its okay to be joyful during the holiday season. Even when
our hearts are aching with sadness…..In so doing you will honor the memory of
your loved one in beautiful ways.
Karla Wheeler
We will be having several things on our church website to
help with easing your pain.